Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Tis the Season!!!

To be Jolly! I don't really have anything new to say, but I just felt the need to post, since it's been over a month!

We had a wonderful Thanksgiving with Tom's family in South Carolina. The kids had a blast playing with their cousins in Nana & Grandpa Lacock's woods! Armed with rubber boots and grubby clothes they still managed to get filthy and loved every minute of it!

We will be home for Christmas as all of my family is coming to Indy for the Holiday. Can't wait to see cousins I haven't seen in years! I love decorating the house and getting everything ready for Holiday party's and get-togethers!

We got an email last week from our agency saying the same thing they have heard since July....."We have a batch of referrals for your agency that just need the final sign-off on them and then we will send them." I learned the hard way in July not to get my hopes up about this news :( But we continue to long for and pray for our little girl in Thailand. And we definitely CAN'T WAIT to meet her!

Merry Christmas, Sweet Girl! We love you!

Friday, October 28, 2011

God is Good.....Always!!

This little phrase seems to easily roll off our lips in times of joy, doesn't it? When we get exciting news, a raise at work, a new house...etc. There are times, though, when this phrase takes a lot of prayer and trusting in God to say.

I was so encouraged in reading Nahum 1 and Lamentations 3 today. In the beginning of Lam. 3 the writer is in deep despair as he feels God is not with him or is punishing him, but then the truth of who God is is brought to His mind and this is what he says:
21.But this I call to mind, (notice this is a choice he makes!)
and therefore I have hope:
22.The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases;[b]
his mercies never come to an end;
23.they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
24."The LORD is my portion," says my soul,
"therefore I will hope in him."
25.The LORD is good to those who wait for him,
to the soul who seeks him.
26.It is good that one should wait quietly
for the salvation of the LORD.

It is so encouraging that the Holy Spirit brings to mind in times of struggle the fact that God is good.....Always. God loves us.....Always. God is Merciful and Faithful.....Always!

The longer the wait in this adoption process, it seems the more I need to be reminded of this. It IS easy to remember, God is good.....always, in times of joy. BUT it is just as easy to remember, God is good.....always, in times of struggle as an exceptionally blessed follower of Christ who, if I just look around, can see thousands of ways God is showing me His love and faithfulness everyday......none of which I am worthy or deserve save the imputed righteousness of Christ!!!

If you are struggling with something right now I pray that Lamentations and Nahum will be an encouragement to you as well!

Sunday, September 25, 2011

8 weeks and very little news

Well, 8 weeks ago we were told there was a package of referrals being mailed to our agency that week. 8 weeks later and NO package. We have since found out that one of the Directors in the government is retiring this month and it has slowed the work process down. The new promise is referrals will be sent in October. Don't know what to think about this. Although I would love to be positive and believe they will send the files, last couple months there have been a lot of promises with no deliveries. So as I try to remain positive I am also being realistic that it might not be till January (or who knows when) when we hear something.

In all this, I know that God has many more lessons (as He has already taught us many) for us to learn. We are trying to enjoy this time with our children as our lives will be turned upside down for several months with the arrival of our new little one (as is with any new addition to the family!)

This adoption is an amazing picture of how Christ adopted us into His family. It has been so neat to hear from friends who have adopted as they see first hand how Christ's love for us is so deep....deep enough He died for us. The same with these children, they love them with such a deep love.....one they would die for. We are still in the waiting process, so our picture of God in this process is a little different. Before I came to know Christ, He loved me, longed for me to be a part of His family, called me because He wanted to draw me to himself. This is the feeling I have. I love our girl, even though we don't know each other, I love her, long for her to be a part of our family and can't wait to wrap my arms around her and draw her into my lap as my daughter!!! So many lessons have been learned and so much more to learn as God molds us to be more like Himself!

Sunday, August 28, 2011

My first PDE....

Well most everyone has heard of PDA (public display of affection) or have seen way too much of it while out and about.....you know those couples you just want to tell "get a room"!! Well, yesterday I had my first PDE, which is a little different than PDA, but just as embarrassing!! PDE (public display of emotion)

It was Saturday night and this was Tom and my week for our date night. (we swap every other week with our neighbors!) Date nights are always exciting. Get dressed up, and by dressed up I mean lose the yoga pants and t-shirt that are my daily staple as a stay-at-home mom, and actually put on makeup and do my hair!!!

Annnywho, it is also fun to pick where we are going to go to dinner or what we are going to do - all by ourselves. Normally, you see, our choices for these things are based on the children that accompany us! So this week we decided to try out a Japanese restaurant that is attached to a Japanese grocery store. Very small place, but good food! We are sitting at the table enjoying the adult conversation with each other, while waiting on our sushi to be prepared. I am observing all the Asian people (including several little girls) coming in and out of the store and thinking about how much I long for our referral. I must have let out an audible sigh because Tom asked me what was wrong. Not wanting to be a "Debbie Downer" and ruin our date I said what most men hate to hear "Oh nothing!" This is the point where men are torn as to what to do with that comment; do they keep prodding with the fear of hearing the real answer or do they change the subject with fear of being cold, heartless and insensitive for not inquiring further as to what is bothering the one they love?!!

Well, Tom jumped in with both feet, not fearful (at least visibly) of what answer might be waiting for him on the other side of his prodding. Well, what he got was an answer of "I just really want our referral!"....followed by tears.

Now thankfully we were seated by a window and I could face out the window and slowly wipe the tears, as if my face kept itching in the area right under my eyeball. But I don't think my husband quite knew what to do with this PDE moment of mine. Poor guy tried to change the subject at that point....a little too late :) I think he just wanted to keep me talking in the hopes that the tears and emotions couldn't quite flow through while I was in conversation. It actually worked pretty well and before long I was back to normal with dry eyes!!

Who knew that this place would bring out so many emotions in me that night. I think it is this wait that is killing me right now. The fact that I know there are referrals "on their way" and yet 1 to 2 weeks has now turned in to going on week 4.

So now I just continue to wait (hopefully with much less pde) but I will still say that every time our home phone rings might heart jumps just a little. Which is terrible because then I get almost disappointed when it is anyone else.....I should never be disappointed when my husband calls me right?!

Praying, praying, praying we hear something this week......

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Still.....Nothing

Yep, the package from Asia still hasn't arrived at our agency yet. Evidently the Asian side of things was closed last week for English training, and I doubt it got mailed out before that.

I would say that I am ALMOST at the point where I would rather hear something, even if it's that we don't have a referral in this batch, than nothing. But I want that referral SOOO much that I can't quite say that yet!!!

In the meantime, I am keeping busy as we start to plan for our church's Annual One Less Orphan fundraiser dinner and silent auction. Last year was a lot of work, but a huge success! It is awesome to be a part of raising funds to offer grants to other families that want to adopt!

I am also planning another personal fundraiser for our family as well! It's going to be a busy, busy fall!!! I'll keep you posted as I get more details together on both the Dinner/silent auction and our own personal fundraiser!

Until next time..... :)

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Finally I have a little new news to post!

Our agency just returned from a Homeland tour in Southeast Asia. We have been waiting anxiously to hear all about the trip and see if they had been able to get any info on the timeline for new referrals. We got an email today from them, saying it was a wonderful time! The people there are so warm and gracious. They said the orphanage that they visited was full of wonderful loving care-givers. It is so encouraging to know that my little girl is being taken care of well!

They also got to have a meeting with the social worker over there and she said that our agency would get be getting a batch of referrals in the next few weeks!!!!! I am extremely excited and giddy, but at the same time trying not to get my hopes up because I know that there might not be a referral match for us in this batch.

So what do I do now (and what can you do with me?) PRAY!!! Pray that the referral for our little girl is in this batch of referrals and that we really will receive it within the next 2 weeks!! How wonderful would it be to have my little girl home before Christmas??!!! I'll answer that (with tears streaming down my face) MORE THAN WONDERFUL!!!

Friday, June 17, 2011

Things I do that help the wait go by more quickly.....

Well the last few weeks have been filled with making lots of cookie bouquets for graduate friends, a huge cookie/cupcake order for a bridal shower and making a headboard for our master bedroom!! So much fun!

Bridal Shower Cookies and Cupcakes!!!








Master Bedroom Headboard!
Graduation bouquet!......one of MANY!

Friday, May 13, 2011

Where has the time gone??





Maybe it had a lot to do with the weather and the fact that it pretty much went straight from winter to summer, but it just seems like spring flew by!! Hope everyone had a nice time celebrating Easter and praising God for all He has done for us!

Still no news on the adoption front for us. Our agency keeps getting the same word from Southeast Asia, and that is that they still have one more orphanage to finish all the paperwork on and then they will start handing out referrals......"Soon" is what they have said for a least 6 months now.

Our agency travels to Asia in July and hopefully will get some answers at that time. In the meantime we wait expectantly AND patiently, knowing that it's all in God's timing and control. (sometimes are easier than others!)

We have had the privilege to watch two close friends bring home siblings from Africa in the last month. We are rejoicing with them as they are now complete families in God's design. When I see their families or pictures of other adoptive families I can't help but think of Heaven and what an awesome picture they are of every tribe, tongue and nation coming together to worship and praise God.....Oh what a day that will be!

Please continue to pray that we will get word soon as to what is going on and will see movement in the referral process...... also that we will be able to pick up our little girl soon!!

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Spring has Sprung!!


It is so nice to have some milder weather here now! With spring in the air, it is hard not to think about new life. I am getting the privilege this month to watch both my "cyber friends" and "real-life friends" bring new lives into their families through adoption. I have two cyber friends in Thailand right now picking up their daughters. I have two real-life friends leaving this week for Africa to pick up sibling sets. How amazing it is to watch God weave a beautiful tapestry out of our lives and not so optimal circumstances....yet all in His design!

As you enjoy watching flowers bloom and trees blossom say a prayer for all the families around the world that are welcoming "new" lives into their families this spring!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

40 days of Prayer is over.........and God has Given us a daughter!

Before anyone has a heart-attack, no we have not received a referral yet, but Praise the Lord that He has our daughter picked out already and will give her to us in His timing. I was reading this morning in Judges 7 where Gideon was sent by God to the Midian camp the night before the battle to listen. He heard two men talking about their dream and the one interpreted the dream saying,(v14) “This is no other than the sword of Gideon the son of Joash, a man of Israel; God has GIVEN into his hand Midian and all the camp.” As if it had already happened.

This is how I feel about our little girl. God has already given her to us in the sense that before time began He knew she would be a part of our family. He has guided our steps and paths to bring us to the point where we realized His calling of adoption to our family. He will, in His timing, "Give" us our little girl.

I am SO thankful that we serve an omnipotent God that can do anything. It would have been nothing for Him to get us our referral. He can move mountains.....so what's a few papers?!! But His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. Aren't you thankful for that? I am so glad that I don't have to be in control of everything, because what I do have "control" over I sure screw up in a hurry!

I am SO thankful that we have a God who loves us and cares for us. A God that is always wanting to grow us in faith and trust in Him to become more sanctified. I don't know how I would handle this long unknown process without my God to lean on every step of the way.

Thank you all for praying with us during the last 40 days. I hope that you will not stop praying with us as we continue on this journey! God has been teaching me many lessons on prayer this year and I truly treasure the special times each day talking to my Abba, Father.

What has God taught you in the last 40 days?

Friday, February 18, 2011

14 Days into the 40 Days of Prayer

14 days in and I can already see God moving and working in our lives and the lives of others. Some exciting news: 5 families from our agency got their TWIMC letter ("To whom it may concern" letter is given by the government saying they have been approved to adopt their child), which means they will be traveling to get their little ones in just a couple of months!! Our family is in the next batch of 5 families whose dossiers are currently in country waiting for processing.

We continue to ask, if it's God's will, that He see fit to give us our referral by March 15. We are not doing this to give Him an ultimatum, but rather because we are human and work on a time line, unlike God who is outside of time. So this is just a specific thing to pray for and we can look to a specific time to see if it's God's will. On March 15th we will be rejoicing and worshiping God for His greatness, whether it is for giving us a referral or teaching us more lessons of trust and dependence on Him while we continue to wait! Either way he is growing us and deepening our love and trust in Him as He works in our sanctification process.

Thank you for the many of you that have joined us in prayer. No time in prayer is in vain. God delights in giving us the desires of our hearts just like any father does.

We continue to be encouraged by all of you!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Would you consider joining us for 40 days of prayer?.....

let me walk you through a few things that have happened the past couple weeks.

1. Those of you in our fellowship group know that we have been challenged to pray with our spouses at least 5 times a week. This has been such a neat and relationship-changing exercise as Tom and I have already seen some of the many benefits of praying daily with your partner.

2. Tom & I are both doing a study through Wayne Grudem's Systematic Theology. Two weeks ago we read a chapter on Prayer. It was, for me, a VERY convicting chapter that made me realize that my lack of prayer shows my lack of trust and dependence on God. I am also robbing Him of glory by not asking for things within His will. Furthermore, I prevent God from showing His power to us and others when He answers prayer.

3. Many of you lovingly ask us how our adoption is going and if we have any news. Unfortunately the answer is always "No, we haven't heard anything" This is definitely a case where "no news" is NOT good news. Yet we know that we are doing what God would have us do in regards to adopting from the country that He led us to. But I must admit that we have not consistently prayed for the timing of everything like we should.

4. In a recent conversation about our adoption with my dear friend Jennifer Herrmann, asked if I had ever considered asking a group of people to join with us in daily prayer for a specific amount of time. Shamefully I admitted that I had not considered this, but I needed to talk to Tom about it. Thanks to the ice storm, Tom and I got to stay home that night and talk and pray about the idea!


Which leads us to where we are today.......wanting you to join us in coming before God daily, in humble dependence, and praying for our adoption for the next 40 days.


Prayer changes the way God acts. James 4:2 says "You do not have, because you do not ask."
Grudem says "If we were really convinced that prayer changes the way God acts, and that God does bring about remarkable changes in the world in response to prayer, as Scripture repeatedly teaches that he does, then we would pray much more than we do. If we pray little, it is probably because we do not really believe that prayer accomplishes much at all."

We are to pray in God's will. John 15:7 says "If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you."
Grudem says "We should have great confidence that God will answer our prayer when we ask him for something that accords with a specific promise or command of Scripture (e.g. Care for the orphans)

Pray with Faith. Mark 11:24 says "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours."
Grudem says "Several passages encourage us to exercise faith when we pray. "whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith." - Matt 21:22 and James 1:6 "Ask in faith, with no doubting." "Prayer is never wishful thinking, for it springs from trust in a personal God who wants us to take him at his word."


Here are our requests: You don't need to pray for each of them every day (except for request number 1 - please do make that a daily request.) Maybe just take one request a week.

We'll start out with a praise. Thanks to God's provision - partly through many of you who attended our adoption fundraiser dinner in November, we have the funds to cover everything but our travel expenses, as outlined below.

1. That God would see fit to give us our referral for our little girl by March 15th, and that we would be able to travel to get her by the end of the summer. Because we know we are obeying His will to care for orphans, we also believe that our little girl would be better off with our family than in an orphanage for another year.

2. Safety and well being of our daughter as she might be living in conditions where she doesn't have optimal supervision.

3. Provision for travel expenses: We estimate that it will take about $14,000 for just Tom and I to go to for two weeks to pick up our daughter. However, we would love to also take our bio children with us. This would be a cultural experience that they may never have again. We estimate that to take them would add additional $6,000 to our travel costs.

4. Provision of a family van: Once our daughter gets here we have outgrown our vehicles.

5. Attachment and Bonding issues: smooth transitions into the home. Unless you've specifically read up on these issues or have personally dealt with them, you don't realize that adopted children can sometimes have difficulty fitting in with their new family. They typically understand that they were once part of a different family, but sometimes have trouble understanding why that family has seemingly abandoned them. That can cause problems with accepting the new family.


We are asking you to pray BIG with us. We know that God is capable of HUGE things. We have no doubt that He can and will answer our (and your) prayers!


If you decide to join us on this commitment of prayer, please respond back to us and let us know, so we know who we are partnering with and can be encouraged by you!


Thank you for wrapping around us in this way,

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

It's Birthday Season at the Lacock House

Ireland's birthday is in January, Tom and Keelan have February birthdays and Camden's is in April. SO needless to say it is party season at our house!!

I just threw Ireland her first "party" with friends. It was so fun. We did a vintage tea party theme.....LOVE it! I really had to watch myself because me and vintage can go a little crazy sometimes!! (not good for the adoption saving budget!)
But Tom was very impressed with how thrifty I was!

The Invitations!

The Tablescape

Dessert Table! (I made a teapot cake!)

Place-setting

Tea sandwiches


It was a VERY fun morning!

Next two parties to plan I believe are another tea-party only a little more teenager-like and a lego party......hmmmmmm!

Monday, January 10, 2011

The Holidays are over :(

I Love the Holidays. A good reminder for all of us as to why we are here on the earth and what we should really be celebrating!

It is also a good time to keep you distracted from the LONG wait to get a referral. Still no to little change or movement in Southeast Asia. The upside has been we will, in the next several months, watch 2 families that are close friends bring home sibling sets from Ghana and Ethiopia and another bring home their daughter from Southeast Asia! So for now we are just happy for them, praying for smooth transitions and help out however we can!!

Praying that we hear some news soon!